2015: The New You

If you’re like me and almost half of Americans, you’re big on making New Year’s resolutions. What’s not to love about a fresh start? Our failures and imperfections all swept away into the ashes of last year. They’re made during the Christmas season when we’re focused on the basics of Christianity: to love God with our whole heart, mind and soul; and to love our neighbors as ourselves. Hearts of love, check. Bodies satisfied with good food, check. The icing on our spiritual cake is the promise of a new year filled with hope, potential and promise.

So what happens?

In the past, around this time each year I would reassess how faithful I’d been in keeping my resolutions so I’m not among the masses who fall off track right away. The same study from the University of Scranton reported only 8% of us actually achieve our New Year’s goals. In a matter of weeks our attitudes change from ‘I win at life’ to TGIF. I wanted off the hamster wheel of promise keeping/breaking. Recalling a leadership course I attended last summer that encouraged focusing on personal strengths instead of weaknesses, I literally had an epiphany. Why didn’t I think of that? Probably because I was concentrating on all the things I was terrible at! Remembering how I went home and immediately put some of it into practice, I decided to go for it and use the same principle for my 2015 goals and dreams. What a resounding success!

The best part is we all have strengths, or areas where we’re talented, regardless of our faith. Trusting and believing in God then couples our natural talent with His spirit endowed gifts, and life becomes more than ‘just living.’ My testimony is that I’m naturally quiet, very detail oriented, and an encourager. So I took stock of my home life. A typical day went as follows: don’t forget your keys/lunch/homework, feed the dogs, dinner at six, and yes, your cello/violin/saxophone scales sound wonderful. Not too shabby I thought, so then came the work assessment. Again, a surface look and things were progressing pretty well. My background is healthcare and scientific research. Two areas that complement me pretty well. As I began focusing on my strengths I truly allowed myself to be who God created me to be, and stopped focusing on creating an image of me I thought everyone else needed because they didn’t always align. I confess it wasn’t an easy transition, and this lifestyle requires ongoing humility checks, but by being obedient to the Lord I’m a much better wife and Mom, which makes me a more relaxed human for everyone else to be around.

Don’t deny yourself the joy of living your life to the fullest!  You were created in God’s image, Genesis 1:27. Our gifts are to be used to show His love and grace to others.  It’s not too late to make a “New You Resolution” in 2015.  As you pray to God that He reveal your spiritual gifts, I stand in agreement that they unfold before you as the pages of a book.  Choose today to believe God and change your destiny in Jesus’ name, and then watch your effort exponentially propel you forward as you stop working in the natural and start living an exceptional life.  “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6

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Work On Your Dream

(Original post sent out 10 February 2015)

Happy New Year!  I thought I’d share a piece of encouragement from me to you.

I’ve been spending a tremendous amount of time in reflection this year.  Thinking about God’s plan for me. What’s His design for me? What’s God’s destiny for Crystal? Perhaps you have to…

I thought, “we sit in church, we tithe, fast and pray because we’re obedient to the Lord, but I was tired of being superficial “Sunday servant”, and wanted a much deeper relationship with God.  A bigger manifestation of His presence in my everyday life, and especially in my children’s lives.  I remembered that I prayed a specific Word over my son’s life as he lay motionless in the ICU for days after a horrific car accident.  There seemed to be no evidence that things would turn around, and the burn and trauma doctors gave his Dad and I little to no encouragement that recovery was possible.  So I said over and over to my son (and myself):

” ‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ says the LORD. ‘They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.’ ”  (Jeremiah 29:11, NLT)

Looking back five years later, it seems like we couldn’t have been in such a desperate place.  My Father God certainly answered all our prayers then, and continues to declare His promises and good plans for all our lives today.  I still pray this prayer over all my children, from the oldest to the youngest.  I still spend time each day with the Father declaring great promises over their lives, calling things forth not as they are but as they will be.  That horrible time is now a time of praise for my family, and my son is a living witness that anything is possible with GOD alone.

Nothing on earth is impossible with God!  Be encouraged today if things aren’t going the way you hoped they would.  My faith has shown me that the Lord can turn the most desperate situation around.  He has great plans for your life.  I agree with you today as you pray and speak life into your dreams.  Be blessed!

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I Speak Life

This weekend we had the most beautiful snow fall across our town.  Not the wet, heavy stuff, but the fluffiest, softest snow I’ve ever seen.  It weighed almost nothing, and believe me there was a lot to shovel!  I found myself mesmerized as I looked out the window, letting the quiet surround me.  Times like this appeal to the introvert in me because I can just think. No work, no calls, no deadlines, just pure reflection. My mind started to circle back to the day before, and the pretty tense conversation I had with a co-worker.  From the start it hadn’t gone well, and things quickly spiraled down to the point I had to abruptly end the conversation.  We’ve all been there, in situations where we engaged “prickly” people, or maybe we were the ones not at our best. Out of nowhere words spilled out our mouths making us think “where did that come from?” I keep a notebook for such occasions because often times I won’t have peace so I write about it, pray on it and come back to it periodically to think on it when I’m not so emotionally involved.

When I was young it seems unnatural that words could wreak havoc over my life, or make the difference in my success or failure. When I was a kid I sang the song, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!” Then as an adult I came to realize, oh yeah, words do hurt!  Plus they seemed to have “power.”  Power to damage (or heal) emotions, and power to set a course of destruction over our very lives. What pictures come to mind when you say these words out loud: I love you; you’re beautiful; I’m sorry, please forgive me; you’re special?  Now think about words you’ve spoken to another that you wish you could take back. What emotions come to mind? More often than not feelings of hurt, shame or anger start to bubble up inside you even though the situation could have happened many years ago.

That’s why we are to guard our mouths and hearts. Proverbs 13:3 says if you’ll guard your mouth you’ll preserve your life, but if you speak rashly you’ll come to ruin (NIV). One of my favorite scriptures is Proverbs 4:23 which says to “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it (NIV). What’s everything? Well, it’s everything including the course for your life! Those that are closest to me know that from the time I carried my children I spoke words of great faith to them, including praying and singing to them in my belly!  So my eccentric side has had spurts for a while. As children I would read to them, and continued to speak blessings and words of protection over them.  When they entered their late teen and early adult years everyone at some time or another would give me “the look.”  You know, as in “Mom, please stop,” but I never did.  My job as Mom is to constantly speak life over them, and to correct ANYONE who does otherwise.  I’ll even speak in love to them when they talk negatively over their own plans or their future.  No, we’re not perfect, but we are perfected in Christ.

There’s nothing like a marvelous Monday to start anew. Make a promise to yourself and to the Father that this week you’ll speak life into your every situation starting now. We serve a God who says to ask Him for the impossible!  We are instructed to have just a tiny measure of faith, and we’ll see the incredible!  I agree with you today as you realize that the Lord gave you your life to bless this earth, and nothing will change that.  Speak life over your circumstances: your marriage, over your children, over EVERYTHING!  Tell yourself every morning you were created for a purpose, and ask the Lord to reveal His purpose for your life. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of (Luke 6:45).

No Text Please, We’re Parents

Awesome post. Can definately relate. My kids in college are always chiding me to upgrade to a smartphone or to snap chat or some nonsense. Nothing beats a visit, or a letter, or just calling. Apps shmaps…

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When I visited my parents recently, I sat down with my mother to show her photos on my iPhone.  There were photos from Thanksgiving, from Hanukkah and from my father’s eightieth birthday celebration, along with pictures from back in the summer — some really good shots I took of our family Fathers’ Day brunch in Los Angeles and my nephew’s college graduation dinner.

Although my mother enjoyed the photos, the problem, she says, is that they’re not real.  You can’t touch them, put them in an album, let them gather dust in a closet until you pull them out for special occasions.

I assured her that the photos can be printed and that we would make this happen.

After we got home, I emailed the photos to my wife, who uploaded them to walmart.com.  For about three dollars, Wal-Mart printed them and mailed them out to my parents.

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